Dating 100 Men

No, I have not dated 100 men.

Yes, I think writing about someone else's writing (instead of my own material) is cheating. But I do it all the time, because the internet is full of such amazing stories.

This one comes from msn.com It's about online dating, and what writer Ann Marsh learned about men, dating, and herself when she used the internet to date over 100 men in six months. Here's the part I like best:

"If he clearly wasn't interested...then he was simply another woman's catch. I got out of her way. I knew I'd meet someone else tomorrow."

I like this idea. Instead of looking at a "failed" date as a problem, Marsh learned to see it as an opportunity for both parties. A dating version of the process of elimination. A reason to smile instead of beat yourself up, and the eternal optimism that somewhere, there is a person (or people) who fit(s) you.

You can read Marsh's article here.


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Sexting

A new form of sexting - not the kind causing legal headaches in Vermont - has entered the picture. And all I can say is, Yippee North Carolina!

In that conservative state, in which sex ed is (you guessed it) abstinence-only, teens can text the Adolescent Pregnancy Prevention Campaign of North Carolina. Adults at the other end text back "a cautious, nonjudgmental reply" within 24 hours, "discreetly and always urging protection".

I'm psyched. Teens have sex. They need good answers. And doing it through texting is meeting them where they live.

You can read the New York Times Article by Jan Hoffman here.

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Collection of Thoughts

Vermont is abuzz over "sexting" - sending sexually explicit texts and images with cell phones. If a teen (or tween) takes a sexy picture of themselves and sends it to their boy/girl friend, it's technically child pornography. This is a felony, and means a perminant listing on the state's sex offender database. Vermont lawmakers are currently working to change this legislation. Read more here and here.

My local high school sends out permission slips for ex education class. Can I veto English class, too? How about math? It annoys me that this is necessary.

Lastly, Betty Dodson has replied to responses about her circumcision essay. You can read her reply here.

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Gay Vermont

I'm so proud to be a Vermonter. The first state to legalize gay marriage without a court order. Woohooooooo!!!

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Follow-Up to "Male Violence"

My entry entitled "Male Violence" has generated a lot of comments, and some questions. (Follow the link to check out the responses, if you haven't already.)

First, I'd like to say, "Wow!" I'm honored to know that such intelligent, articulate, passionate people are reading Positively Sexy. Second, I'm thrilled to see such frank, open dialogue about a sexual topic. Fantastic!

Now the question that keeps popping up: Why, oh, why did I link Betty Dodson's article, "Mothers, Don't Circumcise Your Boys"? Isn't this blog called Positively Sexy, not "Negatively Make People Feel Alienated"? The answer is simply this: I'd read it and wanted to share it. Betty made some interesting points, and the article generated some thoughtful conversations between my friends and I. Originally I wasn't going to blog about it (since Betty's blog is already in our links section), but after reading Cosi Fabian's observations about the cycle of violence, I decided to post them together and see what readers thought.

Things linked in this blog - pictures, essays, videos, other blogs, whatever - share the opinions of their authors, which are not necessarily the same as the opinions of Positively Sexy's authors. I've linked things I love, like the picture of Liberty kissing Blind Justice, and things I hate, like a pro-Prop 8 commercial. I've linked products I've used, like Betty Beauty, and things I'd never seen or heard of, like the Eroscillator.

So where does Betty's article fall on that continuum?

I'm of two minds about "Mothers, Don't Circumcise Your Boys". As many commenters pointed out, Betty's article was full of interesting points, but was aggressively argued. I can't speak for Betty, but I assumed she was riled up from the circumcision video she linked (which I opted not to watch for that very reason). The line about "primitive" Africans particularly upset me.

If I have sons I don't want them circumcised, but I'm not interested in forcing my opinion on anyone else. Certainly, I don't think anyone can tell another person that their sex life or genitals are "wrong" (unless there is non-consensual harm).

I hope some of you commented on Betty's blog. I will link the article again here, because the responses Betty received are worth reading.

Lastly, to those of you who comment frequently - thank you! I encourage you to come up with an alias, as my friend "Annie" did. It's easier to add new thoughts to an old comment that way, and eliminates the anonymous/anonymous confusion.

Many Thanks,

Rachel


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Gay Marriage

For those of us keeping score:

- Gay marriage is legal in Belgium, Canada, the Netherlands, Norway, South Africa, Spain, and Sweden.

- Gay marriage is legal in Connecticut, Iowa, and Massachusetts.

- Gay marriage is not illegal in New Mexico and Rhode Island. Massachusetts will issue licenses to couples from those states.

- New York recognizes gay marriage licenses issued in other states.

- California used to allow gay marriage, but this was overturned by Proposition 8.

- Civil unions in New Jersey grant all the same rights as heterosexual marriage.

Also:

- Gay partnerships/unions are legal in Denmark, Iceland, Norway, France, Finland, Germany, Portugal, Croatia, Luxembourg, New Zealand, Switzerland, the United Kingdom (England, Whales, Scotland, and Northern Ireland), and the Brazillian state of Rio Grande do Sul.

- Hungary allows common-law marriages of same-sex couples.

- Civil unions are legal in Mexico City and Mexican state of Coahuila. These unions are recognised by all Mexcian states.

- Gay partnerships/unions are legal in Connecticut, New Hampshire, New Jersey, Oregon, Vermont, and Washington.

- Vermont's gay marriage bill has passed the Senate and House in spite of a promised veto by Gov. Jim Douglas. A 2/3 majority can overturn a veto.

Further:

- Gay marriage is banned in Honduras, Latvia, and Uganda.



(Information gathered mostly from this About.com article.) For more detailed information, check out Wikipedia's Timeline of Same Sex Marriage. For a comprehensive U.S. map, go to this Wikipedia Page. For other sex laws, check out this Geocities page.

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Follow-Up to Discovery Health Typo

Since I found the "typo" in Discovery Health, I've found two more sources that seem to confirm that the G-spot is part of the clitoris: I *Heart* Female Orgasm by Dorion Solot and Marshall Miller, and She Comes First by Ian Kerner. I have two explanations for this. One is that, when G-spots became popular, we'd forgotten a lot of female anatomy. Someone suggested that it might be part of the clitoris, and the suggestion stuck. The second possibility is that people promoting "clitoral pride" are going overboard, claiming the whole vulva/pelvis in the name of the clitoris. However, zeal and anatomy are not the same thing. Until I'm presented with more compelling evidence, I'm sticking to the G-spot-as-female-prostate theory, as presented in The Story of V by Catherine Blackledge.